08 Jun

Be Your Best Person

Dear Friends,

Here’s another thought I’d like to share

Rather than “Be the better person,Be your best person!

When in conflict with another person, I have often heard myself or someone else say, “Be the better person.” Only recently has it dawned on me that this statement is wrought with judgment. If we “take the high road” or refuse to “stoop to someone’s level” aren’t we really deciding that we are right, they are wrong, and basically, (oh cringe) that we are more righteous than they are? No matter what, the whole idea of being the “better person” separates us from one another, decreases our opportunities for compassion, and increases our chances of becoming resentful and angry. In Max Ehrmann’s Desiderata, he says, “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” If, instead of taking on the intention of being the “better person,” we could act from the intention of being the best person we can possibly be, our actions might be the same, but the impact on us would be vastly different. We would build trust in our own inner voice. We would be acting lovingly toward ourselves and thus increase our tendency to do so in the future. So, rather than “be the better person,” “be your best person!” This shifts the reason for our actions from being based on someone else’s behaviors to being based on our own values and/or character. To walk away from a situation and be able to say, “I was my best person” feels whole, connected and centered. On the other hand, to walk away from a situation feeling like, “I was the better person” might seem like it would feel good, but ends up feeling self-inflated, disconnected, and fragmented. The cost of proving yourself “right” is making someone else “wrong.” Basically it’s a lose/lose scenario. When you are your “best person,” you win and the other person is left to figure out what they need to do for themselves. They might find a way to win as well, or they may not – you’re not in control of that. You only get to control your intentions and your actions. The outcomes are left to a much greater force. And that’s good news! It means you’re only responsible for you! May we all take that responsibility seriously; investing our energy and insight into being the best person we can be in each moment of our lives.

Wishing you best!

Namaste,

Augusta
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Originally Published June 8, 2010

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03 Jun

Wishing You A Heartfelt Welcome

Dear Friends,

Here’s another thought I’d like to share

WELCOME

The significance of this sentiment gets lost, dropped, forgotten or overshadowed by its sheer commonness.  I mean, think about it, it seems more like something you wipe your feet on than it does an emotional extension or state of being.  Nonetheless, the other day I was standing at the front of a group and, as a greeting, I said, “Welcome.”  For some reason, the word hit me.  It resonated with me.  I became aware of the people in the room on a different level than I had been just a moment before.  I saw the people that were at ease and familiar to me.  I saw the people that were new to the group and didn’t know what to expect.  I saw that some people were tired, some were excited, some were somewhere else.  And all of that was okay with me.  I really meant what I had said.  In my heart, I felt it – “welcome.”             Later that day, I was teaching a yoga class and during the final relaxation, because of my experience earlier, I invited the class to take on the feeling of a welcoming heart – whatever that meant to them.  Several people said it made them feel more connected, less separate.  One person said it helped her get out of her head and into her heart.  For me, it opens the door for me to get my ego out of the way, release expectations and accept life as it is rather than how I think it should be.  It means getting “me” out of the way and asserting connection as my primary intention.   So actually, “Welcome” goes both ways – I extend welcoming from inside of myself and I become welcoming inside of myself.   “Welcome home.” “You are welcome here.” “All who enter are welcome.” “A welcoming feeling.” “A welcoming heart.WELCOME What a cool invitation! What an awesome state of being! I really like this word now.  It’s like a new found word that, for me, captures the essence of living fully!  And to think, it was right there at my front door all along.

Wishing you Welcome; wherever you are and wherever you go.

Namaste,

Augusta
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Originally Published June 3, 2010

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